He saved me from imminent death.

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There’s a marked difference between being a strong and efficient swimmer, and being able to swim. That contrast almost killed me.

Years ago, I was sailing with my best friend Jay on his parent's boat, near Barnegat Bay, New Jersey. …


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‘Our family is cursed,’ screamed my mother-in-law when her daughter Sasmita was born*. Sasmita is darker than the rest of her family.

Her own daughter’s skin was so offensive to her that she thought the devil was playing tricks on the family.

Indian businesses and others in Asia have long…


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Dear Mr. Prime Minister,

Sir, I was born in the great land of India, but I left on June 15, 1980. I was adopted by a white family residing in the United States. I returned to India in 2001 with my family.

Then I interned with an Indian NGO in…


Reflecting on my privilege when I left in 2015.

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During the summer of 2015, I lived in Kabul, Afghanistan. I was there for three months. Now, I’m watching Afghanistan plunge into a yet unknown hell, as US troops leave in 2021. I thought about my ability to visit a war-torn country and then have the luxury to leave it.


My family is those who raised me. Blood isn’t a factor.

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I am adopted and my family history's blank, but I refuse to take a DNA test. I won’t buy one from any popular DIY firms. Nor will I pay for a professional genetics test.

Why? There are two reasons. I don’t trust companies dealing with DNA samples. …


man in front of a computer holding cup of coffee and smiling.
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I’m sure you’ve heard the adage, ‘Searching for a job, is a full-time job.’ But I think that mindset is nonsense. It sounds counter-intuitive, but finding other ways to spend your time, besides job searching makes you a better candidate.

The long-term hunt search saps your ability to think beyond…


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Evangelical Christians supporting Trump while also advocating for transnational adoption make me ill. The two are incompatible.

In my experience, many white evangelicals are both proponents of international adoption and strong supporters of Trumpism. The data validates my personal experience. 80 percent of Evangelical Christians voted for Donald Trump in…


I’ve said I am fine without knowing her. The truth is more complicated.

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For much of my life, I pretended not to care about my biological mother. But that was insincere. I was too afraid of the emotions that would come from even acknowledging that I want to find her.


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Near midnight on December 16, 2012, a crime with shocking savagery and scarcely believable brutality, soon to be known throughout India and the globe was discovered. It began with a passerby finding two partially-naked bodies in a ditch on the side of a highway.

The backdrop for the Netflix show…

A.J. Bryant

Indian adoptee from Kerala. I write about adoption, my intercultural marriage, and contemporary India. Prawns are my love language. @adoptedkeralite

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